Would it surprise you to learn that only 30% of women say they always orgasm during intercourse?
It's far more common for women to orgasm usually, sometimes or rarely, and only a very tiny percentage of women say they never have an orgasm during vaginal sex. The point is that if you aren't able to reach the pinnacle of pleasure every time you have sex, don't worry about it. You're normal!
If you fall into that small group of women who just can't seem to come during intercourse or if you'd like to switch your sometimes to an always don't despair. With an attentive partner, a little practice and a few tricks, you'll be coming round the mountain in no time.

Talk to Your Partner

Communication is the key to a fantastic sex life. The next time you have sex, be vocal about what you are feeling. Talk with your partner about what feels good. Initiate the conversation during a non-sexual time, perhaps when you're cuddling before bed, and your partner will feel more comfortable. Make sure your partner understands that you want to make a good thing even better. It might take some time (and practice!), but as long as you are open and honest, you're both working to make your relationship even stronger.

Strengthen Your PC Muscle

The pubocuccygeal muscle, affectionately called the PC muscle, is an internal sling of muscles that stretch from the pubic bone to the tailbone, encircling the urinary opening, the anus, the perineum and the vagina. When you strengthen your PC muscle, you strengthen the walls of your vagina and increase the frequency and power of your orgasms.
To find your PC muscle, do a little exercise the next time you visit the bathroom to pee. While urinating, clench your vaginal muscles until you stop the flow of urine, keeping your butt muscles relaxed. That's your PC muscle doing the work!
Now that you've found it, get to work strengthening your PC muscle with a process known as Kegels. Named after the doctor that first identified this exercise back in the 1940s, Kegels are the rhythmic clenching and unclenching of the PC muscle. Clench and hold your PC muscle for five to ten seconds, unclench, and then repeating nine times. Try to perform this exercise every day; you'll start to feel results after just a couple of weeks.
Of course there's no guarantee you'll have better or more frequent orgasms, but most women report that Kegels dramatically affect their ability to experience stronger, more powerful, more frequent orgasms.

Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay

You can't strike a match and expect to have a roaring fire within minutes; you need to coax the flames until a blaze erupts. Sex works much the same way. Foreplay prepares your body for sex, so make sure you get lots of it!
As you become aroused, blood flows to the clitoris, increasing sensitivity. Your body begins to produce lubricant, an essential component to sexy intercourse. As your body readies for sex, you become more responsive to stimulus, and with the right touch, orgasm is soon to follow.

Get a Helping Hand

If you find it's easy to come when you masturbate, ask your partner to masturbate you during intercourse. Simultaneous clitoral and vaginal stimulation works wonders for most women! Try one of these tricks:

• While in the doggie style position, have your partner reach around to stimulate your clitoris with his or her fingers.


• Have your partner use a clitoral stimulator during intercourse.


• Try using an anal toy during intercourse or have your partner insert a finger into your anus; sometimes a little push sends you over the edge.

Relax!

Always remember that your brain is the most powerful organ in your body. If you find your mind wandering during sex, try to refocus on your body. Relax and let the sensations wash over you. If it helps, fantasize a little. Your partner won't know, and the resulting climax could be well worth it.

by Tamar Love